I was talking to a prospective client on the telephone just the other day desperately seeking help for their child. Unfortunately I did not feel we were the right people to help, or may better put I had a feeling there must and should be someone more experienced in this particular field/problem area to deal with a client of such a young age.
The problem this lady had was she felt totally unsupported and left with no particular course of action. Obviously if she was unable to find someone we would offer to help ~ I just thought there must be a more experienced person used to dealing with this.
If I wasn’t the right person I could certainly be a person to offer support and help which is what I did ~ in two ways.
The first was to ask a simple question which I thought would have been asked by the ‘Experts’! Which was
“ Well what happened just before the problem started?”
A simple question and generally there always seems to a trigger in our lives that creates our issues. To my disbelief it hadn’t been asked yet the answer gave all the information you would need to help heal the situation/issue and gave hope that having identified the why/how the problem started there was a way in resolving it for her child. Maybe you can forgive GPs not asking this question in the 10 minutes they have to deal with their patients but this was a serious thing to be happening to one so young it seemed to me the natural question to start with.
The second thing I did was to find information of someone more qualified to help, call them and relayed details to both parties. If all else fails we will see the child and do the best we can because that’s what caring people do.
Now the thing is, finding the trigger is one thing, it’s really a protection mechanism of the body and our unconscious mind. Getting that trigger to trigger off a better behaviour is the real key to success. If we spend just a little time, using our specially developed questioning we seem to find the cause as well. That’s why we rarely see our clients more than 2-3 sessions.
From there on it’s relatively easy to create the change both comfortably and easily that stays changed. Our metaphor is of a weed the more you pull the leaves the more leaves it seems to grow (the problem spreads to other areas of our lives) BUT when you pull out the root the weed and all its leaves disappear for good.
So I guess to sum up if you have a problem makes you feel bad or react in way you don’t like get in touch and ask if we can help. A consultation costs you nothing – It’s complimentary and it could just change your life for the better there and then. I know we can help if not personally we can help you find a way. Because that’s what we do
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