Stop Waiting for the Perfect Time – It’s Not Coming... Make the Damn Change!

Let’s cut all the excuses.... You’ve been talking about making that change for how long now? Weeks? Months? Years?

“I just need to get through this busy patch.”“I’m waiting for the right time.”“I need to feel more motivated.”“Maybe next year when things settle down.”

I'm here to call you out on your bullsh*t excuses

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You're not waiting for the right time, You’re simply hiding. You’re procrastinating. You’re stalling because deep down you’re scared — not of failing, but of changing. You’ve grown comfortable in your discomfort. You know your pain. You understand your struggle. It's familiar, safe, predictable.... Change? That’s terrifying. That’s the unknown.

But let me be brutally honest with you — and I say this as a hypnotherapist who’s helped hundreds of people finally take that leap they’ve been dancing around for years:

If you don’t make the change now, you probably never will.

The Lie of "later"

“Later” is where dreams go to die. It's always just over the horizon, never actually here. You keep pushing your goals into “later” because it lets you feel like you’re still in control. Like you haven’t failed yet. Like it’s not your fault you haven’t done it — life just hasn’t lined up for you yet.

But deep down? You know that’s that bullsh*t again.

If you're not actively moving forward, you're slipping backward. Momentum doesn't just freeze when you stop taking action. You start decaying — mentally, emotionally, spiritually. You start telling yourself little lies to make your inaction feel noble. “I’m being realistic.” “I have responsibilities.” “Other people are counting on me.”

No. What you’re doing is avoiding accountability.

Waiting for Motivation? Good luck with that!

You think you need to feel ready before you act? Think again.

Motivation isn’t some divine lightning bolt that strikes you at 7:00am with a breakfast smoothie and a sunrise yoga session. Motivation is the result of action, not the cause.

Here’s the truth most people don’t want to hear... You don’t need to be motivated to make a change. You just need to be fed up enough with your own excuses and start being disciplined.

You don’t wait to feel motivated to brush your teeth or take a shower. You do it because it needs doing. The same goes for quitting smoking, starting therapy, losing the weight, leaving the toxic relationship, changing careers, setting boundaries — whatever your “thing” is.

Waiting for motivation is just another stall tactic. A supposedly acceptable excuse to stay stuck.

Your Subconscious Is Running the Show

As a hypnotherapist, I can tell you this: your subconscious mind is the one in charge, whether you like it or not.

It’s been programmed over years, decades even, with beliefs, fears, patterns, and coping mechanisms. And if those patterns include “stay small,” “don’t rock the boat,” “avoid discomfort,” and “change is dangerous,” then guess what? That’s what you’ll keep doing, over and over again.

Even when you consciously want something different, your subconscious is slamming on the brakes. That’s why you start strong and fast, before falling off. That’s why you sabotage yourself. That’s why you keep ending up back in the same damn place, wondering what’s wrong with you.

There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re just running old software.

But here's the kicker: you are responsible for updating it.

Comfort Is Killing You

Do you want a comfortable life or a meaningful one? Because they’re rarely the same thing.

Comfort is nice and enticing. It whispers, “Don’t push yourself.” It offers you the illusion of safety. But it’s a trap. Comfort slowly strangles your potential. It dulls your senses. It numbs your drive. And one day — maybe not today, maybe not this year — you’re going to look in the mirror and realise that the life you’re living is not the life you wanted.

You’ll realise that you stayed in the job too long. Stayed quiet when you should’ve spoken up. Stayed stuck when you could’ve soared. And that moment? That sickening what if moment? That’s going to hit you harder than any challenge you’re avoiding right now.

So don’t wait for that. Don’t wait until the pain of not changing becomes greater than the fear of change. Be proactive. Rip the plaster off now.

You Are Not Special — and That’s Empowering

Everyone thinks their situation is uniquely complicated. How often I hear “You don’t understand, my life is different" is ridiculous. Sure. You’ve got a busy schedule. You’ve got kids. You’ve got bills. So does everyone else.

But people just like you have already done what you’re scared to do. People with less time, less money, more trauma, fewer qualifications — they’ve made the leap. They’ve made the change.

Why? Because they decided to.

So stop using your circumstances as an excuse. Start using them as a reason.

You’re Wasting Your Life in Limbo

Indecision is not neutral. Every day you spend “thinking about it” is a day you’re not living fully. You’re bleeding time, and time is the one currency you never get back.

What would happen if you just committed? If you stopped flirting with the idea of change and just went all in?

Yes, it would be uncomfortable. Yes, it might be hard. But you’d stop living in limbo. You’d stop dragging around this mental and emotional deadweight.

Change is less about doing something radical and more about finally being honest with yourself. Honest about what you want. Honest about what’s holding you back. Honest about the fact that “someday” is a fairy tale and that the only time you actually have is right now.

Here’s Your Wake-Up Call

You are not broken. You are not weak. But you are running out of excuses. And time.

So here’s what I want you to do:

1. Get clear on the change you want. Not what you think is acceptable or realistic — what you really want.

2. Acknowledge what’s been stopping you. Not surface-level stuff, but the real subconscious beliefs and fears.

3. Make a decision. Not a wish. Not a “maybe.” A full-body, no-turning-back decision.

4. Take immediate action. Book the appointment. Have the conversation. Join the program. Quit the thing. Start the thing. Just move.

5. Get support. If your subconscious is working against you, get help rewiring it. Hypnotherapy exists for a reason.

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This is your life. Not a rehearsal. Not a warm-up round. Not a Netflix series where you can binge the next episode later.

Stop scrolling. Stop planning. Stop “thinking about it.”

Make the damn change.