Have you ever wondered, How many people who have a fear of heights ever fall from a tall building? That’s right, none. Some people think that fear is a wonderful emotion to have because of this. However, what about when just looking at a photo of a high building causes that fear, is that rational? No, it’s not is it? The same thing applies to all sorts of fears and phobias and they’re all real in for the people who experience this. This reaction is debilitating and can, when thrashing around with arms and legs, actually be more dangerous.
Having the unconscious ability to create the feeling of anxiety that we call fear, can be one of the greatest abilities we have, if it is in an acceptable scenario eg: if we are being attacked, or standing on the edge of a long drop and really this is the fight or flight that is ‘hard wired’ within each of us. On the other hand, if this fear becomes so big it becomes a phobia (where it becomes an irrational, intense and persistent fear that causes us to avoid certain situations) it can cause no end of problems for us.
We are born with the ability to feel fear, but when born we do not have certain beliefs about what to afraid of. Its’ only when we go through an event that causes us to be afraid, our unconscious mind stores this memory in a way that the next time a similar event happens, it will cause us to feel fear so that we avoid the situation altogether. And whilst the unconscious mind is doing this for a marvellous reason or purpose it’s not learning from the previous time or your experiences in between. If it did you would be act so differently
Let’s look at the phobia of spiders (Aghhhhh…. sorry got carried away). How many times do you see babies playing with spiders and chasing them? It’s only when their parents pull them away quickly, screaming at the spider that we learn spiders are scary. In reality though, there are no dangerous spiders here in England so the fear is very irrational. It can even turn into a phobia where a toy spider can even cause this fear, or even just thinking about one causes the anxiety to return. When you think about it, we don’t learn to be frightened over a long period of time. We don’t think Oh there’s a spider there, I’ll be a little nervous and the next time think, Oh I’ll be a little more nervous now. No, we learn a phobia in an instant an that’s the great thing phobia’s teach us~ We have the amazing ability to learn new things unconsciously in an instant and therefore we can unlearn things we don’t want in an instant too and learn to act the way we want to in an instant. We can choose this and change at the unconscious level, how????????????? Using hypnosis of course (silly!)
So how can you let go of your phobias and choose to act the way we want to ? Why not just contact us at Cambridge Hypnotherapy and let us show you how easy it can be to become free of your fears and anxieties and learn to be the way you want in only 1-2 sessions? Really in only 1 or 2 sessions?????????? Yes really
Luke Clough