Why I don’t like motivational speakers

Boring and generic

Ok, so how many times have you searched on google or youtube for a motivational speaker or speech? I’ll be honest and admit I used to do it regularly. I used to love watching a quick 5 minute video of people succeeding, I thought I needed it. I also see no end of people posting links to such speeches on facebook, and now it’s really starting to get on my nerves. They are so boring and generic. They have EXACTLY the same content. I just did a search for motivational speech on YouTube and 5 of the first 8 videos had a picture of the same film moment. They have simply been cut and edited together and are all identical!!!!

Rant alert

Here’s a video I did on our facebook page where I discuss my thoughts (warning, I may have ended up going on a bit of a rant)

M O T I V A T I O N AL – S P E E C H E SA bit of guidance, or a rant, not sure which……

Posted by Cambridge Hypnotherapy on Thursday, May 28, 2020

The problem I have with people searching for motivation videos is that they shouldn’t need it. If you need motivating then there is something else wrong or missing. Maybe your priorities are misaligned or you need specific guidance. If you don’t know how to do something do you think listening to someone tell you how amazing you are will help? Listening to a general video giving you a 5 minute rush or adrenalin will not give you the answers you need. We can all have someone screaming “you can do it” etc at us for 10 minutes but is that what you need? NO!!!

so where do you look?

The answer is to NOT search for motivational speech. Search for something specific. If you are struggling with motivation to exercise and lose weight find someone who has done it before. If you need motivation to build your business, find someone who has built businesses. If you need motivation to stop doing something (drinking, gambling etc), find someone who has already done it. Search for a success speaker within that field, I guarantee you it will benefit you much more. Sure, it may not give you that 5 minute of drive, but it will give you a long term feeling of “you can do this” because someone else already has! Search for success stories to motivate you to make that change

we can help you

Once you’ve gotten that drive to succeed, you are probably left wondering which way to go. Being motivated to do something, and knowing how to do it are 2 very different things. If you feel that you need guidance then that is where we can help. I can’t teach you how to play golf, or promise to show you how to handle whatever it is that you are going through. I may not have been through it myself. But what I can do is allow you to find the tools you already have to excel whatever it is that you want to do. I can help you change your relationship with alcohol, or with food. I can help you change the way you see yourself so that your determination and confidence improves infinitely. Whatever it is, we can help you. All you need todo is click here to send us your details. We’ll contact you within 2 hours to talk you through how we work.

Speak soon,

Luke

Be Selfish

Why it’s ok to put yourself above others

So many times we hear people being moaned at and criticised for putting themselves first, and not thinking about others. Sure, there are times where this may be true but nowhere near enough to warrant the accusation. I’m all for helping others where we can, but there comes a point where you have to say NO!

You want me to sacrifice doing something that will make me happy and bring enjoyment to my life, just so I can do something that suits you? Sorry, not always going to happen! Yes I will put myself first at times, and there will be times where that will simply piss others off, but that’s now their issue to get past.

Now obviously there is a limit to this. I don’t think we should be saying “to hell with everyone else, I’m looking after No 1”. To blatantly ignore someone that genuinely needs help because we’d rather watch our favourite tv programme is not right. There are certainly times where it is right to help others and we can get back to doing our thing later on. However I believe that we need time to ourselves to the the best version we can be. This then allows us to help others more in the long run as well so its a win-win. So wether its going to watch a game of football, a night out with friends, hitting the gym or simply enjoying a hobby, take time for yourself and give yourself permission to do it. Afterwards you’ll find yourself in a much more stable and happy mental place, which allows you to be more productive for others as a result.

So many people enquire saying that they need to change their perspective as they are always saying yes to others. Others want to watch a different film so they say ok, someone wants to go to a different shop so they say ok, someone wants to eat somewhere else so they say ok. We help them regain that voice and start to be more assertive in their opinions.

As I often do, here’s a quick video I did on our facebook page with a few outlined thoughts.

SA Y I N G – N OIt's ok to say no! We get a lot of people saying that they find themselves always saying yes to others and unsure what to do about it….. here's my thoughts…#Hypnosis #Hypnotherapy #CambridgeHypnotherapy

Posted by Cambridge Hypnotherapy on Monday, May 18, 2020

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If this sounds like something that you may need help with then feel free to drop us a message by clicking here. We’ll get right back to you within a couple of hours.

Speak soon,

Luke

Boost your incentive

is it worth it?

For many people who enquire with us here at Cambridge Hypnotherapy, the desire to change is sometimes just not quite big enough… yet! The first step we can help people take is to go from thinking it would be nice to be different, to thinking it is essential to be different. This is the moment where we believe any change is possible!

That is where an initial consultation comes into play. We can not only talk about what hypnotherapy involves and make sure that potential clients get their questions answered, but we can also start to look at their ‘why/incentive’. If we feel it is not compelling enough then we can help them by getting them to complete a fantastic mind map we have called “What Will It Mean”. After that we have an audio track to listen to. I’ve done a brief talk on our facebook video last week about this, which you can see below.

I N T E N T I O N S

Posted by Cambridge Hypnotherapy on Monday, May 11, 2020

We have a moral view that we will only work with clients that we believe we can get results with. If we feel you are not ready then we will give you some work to do before booking a session. Then, if this work is not completed then that reinforces our opinion that we would not have been a good fit for that client and that we made the right decision in not booking sessions up. if, on the other hand, they call us within days saying they have done it then let’s go!

If you would like to find out more about whether we can boost your incentive, contact us by clicking here. We will then call you to book your complimentary 20 minute initial consultation and get you started.

Stay safe, and we shall speak soon.

Luke

 

Alcohol in Lockdown

every day seems like a weekend

There has been an increase in the number of enquiries over the past few weeks from individuals with a common problem…. their relationship with alcohol. Over the past few weeks (or has it been months?) it has become very easy to lose track of our daily routines. Sometimes I don’t even know what day of the week it is, let alone what work I have on that day.

When it comes to alcohol, I know lots of people like to commit to drinking nothing midweek, whereas others like to have maybe 1 drink a night during the week and then let loose on the weekend. Either way is fine, there is no right or wrong. Whichever way works for you and you choose for your life is right for you.

During these times though it has become very easy to get out of synch with our daily routines. Any given day could quite easily seem to be a weekend for those who are either now not working or those who work from home. So when we look at things like that, whichever category from the two above that you fall into, it could be a dangerous time. If you only drink alcohol at weekends, yet every day seems like a weekend it can be very easy to start to drink every day. On the other hand if you are the type to let loose at weekends, again it can be very easy to start finding yourself getting carried away on any given day.

What can you do to stop thins happening

Here are just a few ideas as to how you can consciously try and keep a lid on your alcohol consumption levels:

  1. Keep a diary about what you are drinking. Notice any trends
  2. Commit to a daily routine
  3. Have a reward night where you say its ok to have a few drinks
  4. Find a hobby in the evenings to fill up your time

Now these are things you can do to try and stop the output/symptom of drinking. We however want to help you change your internal programming so that you don’t even need to put the effort into drinking less. We have found that over the duration of no more than 2-3 sessions it can be very easy to regain that level of control. We can help you start to create a daily routine that fits back into who you are and how you want to live your life.

If you would like to find out more about exactly just how easy it could be to change, click here and drop us an email. We’ll get back to you to arrange a time to have a complimentary initial consultation so you can find out a bit more, and to ensure you’re comfortable to proceed!

Until then, stay safe and we look forward to hearing from you.

Luke

 

Initial consultation

The First step

Once you have made the decision to seek help with Cambridge Hypnotherapy, the first thing we do is ask you to come along for an initial consultation. This last roughly only 20 minutes, and is complimentary. There is also no obligation at then end, its not a sales process!

The aim of the consultation

The consultation has a few main objectives, which I will try and outline below.

  1. Going to see a hypnotherapist for the first time can be a very daunting and anxiety inducing event. We believe that if you were to attend your first session having no idea about us, the room, or whats going to happen then you’re already battling. You will attend your first session feeling much more comfortable having met us before.
  2. Anyone can write a website, or have one written for them. Come and get a feel for us as professionals. We are super confident that you will quickly start to see that we don’t only talk the talk, but we are more than capable of walking the walk too.
  3. We want you to understand the process. When you mention the word hypnosis to people, it conjures up a loss of control, being humiliated on stage or having a watch swung in front of your face. We can explain not only what NLP, TimeLine Therapy and Hypnosis are, but more importantly how we will use them for you personally.
  4. It is for us too! Now that may seem strange, but let me explain. It is a chance for us to decide whether we believe we can help you. We don’t work with everyone who enquires. We will only book you in for sessions if we are sure we can help you achieve your goals.

These are just a few points as to why we believe offering a FREE initial consultation is vital in making sure you are giving yourself the best chance to let go of your issue. I made a quick Facebook video about it which you can see here.

F I R S T – S T E P

Posted by Cambridge Hypnotherapy on Tuesday, April 21, 2020

 

If you would like to find out more, please don’t hesitate to email us by clicking here. We can have a quick chat on the phone and see if it is the right thing for you to do.

Stay safe,

Luke

Start your day well

Don’t play Catch up

I honestly believe that starting your day off in the right way is vital in being effective. Why oh why did alarm clocks and phones invent the snooze function! What is the point of it? If you set your alarm for a certain time, then surely you did that the night before because you made a conscious decision to get up at that time…. not 10 mins later, not 20 mins later etc. I beg you, if your device allows it, turn off the snooze function. If you cannot turn it off, DO NOT use it. You will feel like you’re playing catch up from the very beginning of the day. Breakfast will be late, your work will start late, you’ll miss your exercise session or walk you wanted to do. In addition, by the time it goes off again 10 minutes later there is zero chance you have had any extra good recovery sleep. Interrupted sleep is no good for us, and if anything will make you feel worse than you did when you first woke up.

How to get up in the morning

So what can you do to make sure that you give yourself the best chance of starting your day on the right foot?

  1. Set your alarm at a realistic time – Don’t set it for 5am if you know there is no chance you’ll get up then.
  2. Move your phone to where you have to get out of bed to turn off the alarm
  3. Create a morning ritual that needs to be done – stretching, walk, yoga, mindset

There’ll be plenty of other ideas, but there’s just a few to get you thinking about what you can do. At the end of the day whats right for one isn’t for another.

As always, please feel free to contact us here if you feel you need any further help with this and I’ll be more than happy to speak with you. Remember we offer all of our clients a complimentary 20 minute initial consultation, and only work with clients for 2-3 sessions after that. We are still working online at this time too.

Stay safe,

Luke

How lists can save your day

The effectiveness of writing a list:

In these trying times, it seems like a lot of people are finding themselves lose their way in terms of trying to find a daily routine. Personally, I think that it is important to cut yourself some slack right now. There was always a large amount of people we worked with who wanted to change an aspect of their lives, yet they would have one common obstacle….. they perceived they had no time. They had no time to exercise, no time to look for that new job, no time to write a business plan, no time to realign their priorities. Well, this great  for all of them as right now we seem to have all the time in the world.

One thing that I see many people do is try and structure out their whole day. Now I know this works for a lot of people, but personally I think that as soon as you miss a time slot due to children being at home and needing your attention for example, anxiety kicks in and you start trying to play catch up! Sure, when you’re at work and you don’t have any distractions this works fantastically well, but these times call for different measures.

So what can we change?

So what can we do instead? Well, what I’ve found works for me is that every night before I go to bed I write a lot of tasks I need to complete the very next day. No time slots, no deadlines, just simply done by the end of the day. One thing that is important when doing this is to prioritise it too. I don’t want to get to the end of my working day and realise there is one thing on my list, which is super important and needs doing immediately! So my daily routine simply looks like this:

  1. Write a list of jobs to do the next day before going to bed.
  2. Realign that list in terms of priority
  3. Wake up and tick jobs off as I go through the day,

Pretty simple, huh? Try it. You may find it helps you relax and become much more efficient in getting jobs done! Here’s a quick video I posted recently on our facebook page explaining it in a bit more detail.

The importance off making a list

M A K I N G -L I S T SI truly believe that right now, in these times, making a list can be the difference between a productive day, and a guilt ridden day of half completed jobs at best…. check out my thoughts here!

Posted by Cambridge Hypnotherapy on Tuesday, April 14, 2020

If you have any questions, please don’t just sit there. Drop me an email here and I’ll be more than happy to help you.

Stay safe!

Luke

How to ignore an answer that you know isn’t true

“Is everything ok?”

We’ve all asked the question above many times, especially when we get the feeling that the person we’re asking is going through a tricky or difficult time. I bet if you could go back and re-watch every time you’ve asked it, the answer you probably got is “Yeah I’m ok”. The topic was then dismissed, and no doubt you carried on talking about the usual day to day topics and everyone went on their way.

I wonder what would happen if we had all responded to their answer differently? Instead of saying “That’s good”, we replied with “I know you’re not and you don’t need to tell me now but when you’re ready let me know” and then carried on with your conversation, I wonder what would have happened? I think you’d have given that person an ‘in’ and that they would know they could come to you when they were ready. They wouldn’t have missed that brief window of opportunity to actually discuss their problems with you. Here’s a brief video I did a while ago after listening to 2 people talk at a wedding I was at.

Q U I C K – T H O U G H T

Posted by Cambridge Hypnotherapy on Thursday, December 12, 2019

If you feel that you need to discuss anything that is going on in your life then we are always here, so why not just send us a message by clicking here. It may not be about booking sessions, you may just need some advice and pointing in the right direction, we’re happy to help either way.

Speak soon,

Luke

We all need pointing in the right direction

Challenge yourself

T A L K – T O – M E

Posted by Cambridge Hypnotherapy on Monday, January 20, 2020

It’s ok to ask for advice and help. I decided that this year I would like to challenge myself and so far I am unsure as to how that will be. Ultimately, at the end of the day I believe that if we are not doing things to challenge ourself, and that are hard we’re going nowhere fast. We need to be putting ourselves though things on a regular basis that in all honesty may suck, but this is where we grow and learn. These learnings will stay with us, and by overcoming them we will become much more rounded and well equipped to handle life in the future.

So what can we do to challenge ourselves?

  • Run a marathon
  • Learn to play an instrument
  • Learn a foreign language
  • Self help to discover more about us as an individual
  • Other physical challenges (3 peaks, Mount Kilimanjaro)
  • Travel somewhere challenging
  • Speak in public if it’s out of your comfort zone

Those are just a few examples of things you can do to try and push yourself to grow. If you ever get a chance I would highly recommend listening to David Goggins, he has an amazing youtube channel here. He is a master at picking things he hates and then doing them daily until they become the norm to him.

So, go ahead and find things you hate to do and that are hard to do, and then go out and absolute boss them! On the other side of that is absolute greatness. If you feel you need a little push and guidance, as always you can contact us here and we’d be more than happy to help!

Luke

Take Action…. or stand still!

Are you taking action?

It’s very easy to say we all want something different in our lives, and that we aren’t happy with where we are….. but the question is what are you doing about it? It’s easy to say you want something, yet just wanting it and acting on it to actually make a change are two very different things.

Some people don ‘t know how to take action, or what action to take so I thought it’d be nice to raise the topic to get us all thinking. So here are a few scenarios and what you could do if they sound familiar:

  • Lose weight: Buy exercise clothes, join a gym, plan your diet, hire a trainer
  • A new job: Contact employers within your desired sector, contact agencies, speak to your current employer to raise concerns
  • Learn a hobby: Contact local clubs, search facebook for local groups, decide upon chosen hobby, buy equipment

I know they are only a few examples, but hopefully you can see that there are decisions to make and choices you can act upon to make your change happen.

Heres a quick video I did for our facebook page whilst out walking:

W H A T – A C T I V I T Y

Posted by Cambridge Hypnotherapy on Tuesday, January 28, 2020

If you need help and would like to discuss how we at Cambridge Hypnotherapy can help make your change swifter than you ever thought possible, then why not drop us a message here and we’ll be in touch!

Speak soon,

Luke